Reema Faris - Power

1) Tell us, where do you draw power from?

To be honest, sometimes I just don’t know! 

Here is what I do know. I have a strong, loving, and supportive family - that’s my primary circle of influence.  I’ve got amazing friends who, over a glass of wine or two or a text here and there, can change my outlook and help me get ready to face the next challenge. 

Then, there’s a perspective I’ve gained with age. The ability to look back and say, “yes, I did do that and that and that and each of those meant something.” Even difficult “thats” are part of that source of power I can draw on. Surviving difficult times and dark days are just as important in building the strength and ability to face whatever it is life throws at us.

There are the opportunities I’ve had to travel, to learn, to experience new things that have all shaped my ability to power through the days. Chocolate, music, a sunset, and the ability to appreciate it all are also instrumental to my sense of well-being.

Stubbornness, perseverance, and being a Mom are all factors that have helped shape who I am and the sense I have of being capable and accomplished.. 

Those are some of the things I can identify. Then there are those times when I reflect and still can’t figure out how I managed to put one foot in front of the other, to get through very difficult times. And it is the latter that always leaves me feeling humble and grateful for those mysterious sources of power and for all that life has offered me.

2) What has been your moment that you felt most powerful?

October 15, 2015. The day of my defense for my Master of Arts in the Graduate Liberal Studies program at Simon Fraser University.

I knew my material and I felt ready to face any questions. More importantly, the travelling I’d done in the summer, which involved partly retracing Mary Wollstonecraft’s footsteps through Scandinavia, had led me to greater insight into the work I had done. I felt a sense of confidence that has eluded me at other points in my life and I was rewarded by the compliments I received afterwards. Completing that project and defending it was such a crucial step in propelling me forward to where I am now.  That experience has made it possible for me to continue my studies as a doctoral student and I’ve never been happier although I am back to being sleep-deprived and living with deadline stress!

3) How do you empower others around you? 

During my tenure as a Trustee on the West Vancouver Board of Education, I attended a number of conferences held for Trustees from across British Columbia. I remember at one such event meeting a women who thanked me for a blog post I’d written and explained that I had captured a different point of view, which she didn’t often see expressed and which reflected her own experience within her own community. That sense of helping someone understand an idea or express a feeling, especially if it is a way of thinking that challenges the majority viewpoint, is the way I feel I have been able to empower others. By being willing to ask questions and by pursuing the integrity of my own inquiry, even at the cost of being unpopular, sets an example that our obligation is to speak up and to speak out. That has always ever been the way to bring about change and to make things better:  for ourselves and, more importantly, for others!

4) Anything else you want to say/final thoughts?

On October 26, 2016, the World Economic Forum released its annual report on gender-based gaps around the world. Canada ranked 35th out of 144 countries on the list and at this pace of change women globally will not earn as much as men for another 170 years. Women everywhere need to exercise their power to continue to fight for gender parity and gender equity across a fluid gender spectrum. Women have come a long way and we have a long way to go. Let’s work together and let’s get it done before another century or more elapses!

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Suzanne Solsona - Information Is Key To Power

1) Tell us about the power you feel from being a CEO and owner of a company?

Being an entrepreneur and CEO of my own company is empowering because it gives me the flexibility to dictate my work hours and schedule, which is vital when I also want to be a stay at home mama to my two young boys. I'll also be quite candid and admit that the title, responsibility and power that comes with the position of CEO are all exciting and ego-boosting, but my true sense of personal fulfillment and thus power comes from the belief that MyMayu is improving the lives of families all over the world. Knowing that we are helping families reconnect with nature fills me with an incredible sense of power and satisfaction.

2) How do you empower others to be powerful?

I have always held the belief that information is key to power. In keeping with this belief, I have always tried to give others as much information as they need to make informed decisions. I did this as a lawyer and continue to do it as a business person and a mother. Unless you know all the circumstances, a decision and course of action is less powerful than if you act based on full knowledge and comprehension.

3) Tells about the power struggle in your life.

Presently, the power struggles in my life mostly surround getting my two young boys to eat their vegetables and brush their teeth. Sometimes, no amount of logical reasoning effects the desired outcome. I am fortunate that my business partner (who is my husband) and I are more often than not on the same wavelength and we rarely clash about matters concerning the company (or the family). 

4) Anything else you want to say/final thoughts?

I'm honoured and excited to have been chosen to give a talk on October 29th with such an amazing group of women. I'm also grateful to have been given such wonderful coaching and mentorship from Karen McGregor. It is going to be an amazingly inspiring event- one that will make Vancouver and TED proud.

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Rosalyn Mow - A Powerful Mindset

1) Pole dancing might have a negative connotation attached to it - how are you taking it from taboo subject to powerful and confident fitness regime? 

Pole dancing has evolved much faster than public opinion.  In fact, what is generally believed to be is either not true or is a mere fraction of the full picture.  Education is one of the best ways to change public opinion, but instead of telling people that this form of fitness has the potential to become an Olympic sport, I get to show them.  It's about opening people's eyes to see how pole dancing has combined aspects of strength, endurance and flexibility, which makes it a perfect combination in any powerful and confident fitness regime.  I feel that with each performance I do, movement is made in shedding its negative connotation.  Although it still feels like I'm sharing a best kept secret when I perform, pole fitness is quickly gaining popularity.  It's just a matter of time before it's negative connotation becomes a thing of the past.  

2) How do you instil power in those around you? 

Power to me is a holistic energy that can be uplifted in those around through our interaction.  As a Notary Public, I feel that sharing my knowledge with clients has the ability to instil in them a measure of confidence and control over the subject matter.  Delving deeper, I've always been moved by people who share a passion that shows they've put in a lot of hard work.  I feel it's not only inspiring to be passionate about something, but becoming aware of how goals can be achieved with hard work and passion always encourages me to do more for me.  Realizing that I have the ability to achieve something is a powerful mindset.  It is my hope that I inspire people the way they inspire me when I see the outcomes of their hard work.  Everyone has something to be proud of and I'm always empowered by those who feed this energy around me.  

3) How does pole dancing empower you? 

Pole dancing has empowered me in so many ways.  Physically it's helped me stay in great shape and enabled me to become more confident and have more energy.  It also helps me stay focused when working on a new pole trick or training for competition.  It also challenges me mentally with it's creative side when making choreography for myself or for a class of students (I teach a class called Lyrical Pole at Tantra Fitness).  I love how choreography can inspire students to tell a story with their movements, and it's ability to control an audience's emotion.  Perhaps the best way pole dancing lifts me up is through its amazing community.  It is a community that does not discriminate, and has taken away many fears of failure when aiming for a goal.  Being surrounded by such a supportive group of people has created a positive environment that truly enables me to feel my best in body, mind and soul.    

4) Anything else you want to say/final thoughts?

I would like to thank the event organizers for allowing me to be a part of this event.  I feel honored to share the stage with so many talented and intelligent women.  I've prepared a new piece for the event that for me embodies the theme "Power", and I hope everyone enjoys my performance.

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Julie Salisbury - Disempowered By A System

1) Tell us about your struggle with book publishing. How did it disempower you?

I was confident that a traditional publisher would be interested in my manuscript about my seven year journey around the world. It was a fascinating "Eat, Pray, Love" real story. In addition, I had realistic expectations about my own involvement in marketing. I received twenty-two reject letters before I decided to figure out how to self-publish. For many people they end up waiting for years for those reject letters and then lose faith in their story. Many great stories go unpublished and the great knowledge and wisdom they have goes to waste.

I realized that the traditional publishing industry is only interested in known celebrities and the chances of being recognized as a first time author was very slim. As I researched the self-publishing world I realized this was an industry preying on the dreams of those who needed help on how to navigate this "pay-for- publishing" world. I realized I was not alone, so I created a company to help other first time authors who felt "disempowered" by a system who did not want to help unknown people that had great stories to tell.

We are led to believe that publishing companies are looking for great stories and then we can get the help we need to transform our stories into a published book. The truth is, most of the independent and print on demand publishers just take your manuscript as it is and print and distribute it, with little or no advice about the manuscript or how to market it. This is why most self-published books flop. 

This is where I can really help emerging authors, I have a process called Inspire A Book that takes them through the chaos, the fear and self-doubt of getting a book out of your head and onto the page.

2) How do you instil power in those you help?

My InspireABook process is all about inspiring my authors. The reason I know so much about this comes from my own process with dyslexia. Many people think of dyslexia as confusion, but it is a different way of thinking. The dyslexic mind takes confusion and is able to problem solve and simplify through that chaos. The gifts of a dyslexic mind are: creativity, imagination, innovation, finding simplicity in complex situations and problem solving. This is what we do in InspireABook. I encourage my authors to literally "throw up all their ideas" on to a page in a mind map and then I help them "clean it up" into a structure of a book. This process really empowers my authors and helps them get to the task of writing. Once they have the book written, I then bring an objective reader's viewpoint to their writing. Often the author can get stuck in their own head and in their own way giving lots of details and evidence to prove a point. What the reader really wants to know is: How did you come to that realization and how did that affect your life? This helps my authors make their story accessible and interesting to their audience, so it is not a flop.

3) Where do you draw your power from?

I know that I draw my power from within: owning and using my dyslexic gifts to help others in the publishing industry. I found publishing an elitist group of people that loved telling people that their story is "not good enough". This was an old record I'd heard many times at school, "You are not good enough". I found many writers who had amazing stories to share but did not think their writing was "good enough". So I started a publishing company to fill this gap and to empower authors and great stories to emerge. In the last ten years, I've now published close to 100 books based on this philosophy.

4) Anything else you want to say/final thoughts?

I want people to understand the distinction between "story-telling", creative writing, and editing. I hear so many objections like "my writing is not good enough", or "my grammar and spelling is bad", where what I am really concerned about is do you have a great story to tell. A good editor and publisher can help with things like sentence structure, flow and purpose. InspireABook is the first step on the journey to publishing a great book.

If this interests you, please look at all our free informational resources online at www.inspireabook.com

and don't be afraid to reach out to [email protected]

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Vicki McLeod - Personal Power Is Intrinsic

1) Tell us when you first felt power for the first time

What immediately came to mind with this question was a time when I was about 7 or 8 years old. I was standing in the tall grass in the playground outside my neighbourhood school. It was summertime, and I was barefoot. In those days, they didn’t cut the schoolyard grass in summer, so it made a great place to play.

I remember so vividly the feeling of my feet on the cool ground, and the tall grass up to my knees. A feeling of energy ran through my little body and I knew – deep inside - that I was part of everything: the grass, the sun, the breeze, the earth – connected to it all, and it filled me with power.

Something in that moment lasted a lifetime, and I’ve always understood the difference between personal power and positional power. As a result, titles, roles and positions --- while they give us context, structure, and influence, haven’t held as much relevance for me as standing in my own personal power. Positional power can be taken away, but personal power is intrinsic.

In a way, I think that childhood experience made me see myself, and of all of us, as part of a universal force – and that connection gives us an unlimited source of influence at every touch point in our lives.

2) Give us a small insight into Childless by Choice: A Powerful Act of Fulfillment

We live in a time and culture where women are faced with a world of choices, yet there still seems to be an outdated social expectation that all women are destined to be mothers. I just don’t believe that's true. Biologically, perhaps, but we are far beyond making choices based simply on biology - or gender, race, or class for example.

As a woman who chose not to have children, I wanted to lend my voice to a conversation about a woman’s right to choose her own destiny, whether that includes children or not. I also explore the notion of fulfillment as the result of powerful choice-making --- that honouring our deepest truths and living with our truth is a path to being fully human, and therefore fulfilled.

3) When do you feel least powerful? 

There are definitely times when the world gets too big for me. There are big problems to solve, and I can get to feeling pretty small when I fully consider the scope and my possible role or responsibility to help solve them. I’m nearing sixty and I think I believed the world would be in a much different place by the time I got here. I experience a certain sense of frustration when I think that there is still such a long way to go.

And on the more personal side, as I experience my own aging and the inevitable loss of family members and peers, I am reminded (again) that all of life is learning to let go, and that I have no power over these processes or control over the mysteries. I just consider myself lucky to be part of them, having a human journey, making a difference where I can.

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Maili Wong - Power Toward Positive Action

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1.    What do you think "power" really is?

Power is the courage to step beyond what is comfortable and take a risk.  Owning one’s power means accepting that life is filled with uncomfortable challenges that require us to adapt and change. Ironically, it’s the challenging points-of-decision that actually allow us the opportunity to define our life purpose and subsequently direct our power toward positive action. 

2.    Do you believe power can be lost/stolen/restored in people? Or is it all a state of mind?

Power can be lost, and regained.  During my most vulnerable time, I felt like I was completely alone, scared, and powerless.  But, as I realized how lucky I was to be alive and that I had the power within me to make choices to find a way forward, I slowly felt my power emerge again.

3.    Why do you think we are obsessed with power in society?

Power and control are often intertwined as synonyms in our western society.  For instance, when one spouse is more informed about or “controls” the couple’s finances, there is often an imbalance of Power in the relationship.  But why is it that the other spouse allows this to happen?  Is it fear or lack of knowledge that prevents them from asking the right questions?  I’m an advocate for taking smart risk and years of experience have taught me that a Roadmap is a powerful tool on the path towards a life worth living.  When we begin to understand the incredible life force inherent in being truly connected to our life purpose, we tap into a power that is undeniable.  That power puts into our path the people who believe in and support us.  We gain a perspective about healthy risk that builds our resilience, our inner muscles

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Shirley Weir - When The Power Goes Out

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1) You've created Menopause Chicks - empowering women to take charge of their life change. Did you create this because you felt powerless during menopause? 

I created MenopauseChicks.com from my own experience in perimenopause. And yes, the mission of Menopause Chicks is to provide a platform for women to get informed, to become their own best health advocates, and to connect with professionals who can support them on their journey.

You see, menopause is just one day. It’s the 12 month anniversary of your last period. But there is a phase of life…sometimes 5 to 15 years leading up to menopause…when our hormones begin to fluctuate. This phase is called perimenopause. Perimenopause is a relatively new term only invented in the 1990s, so chances are, when you hear the phrase “going through menopause” from your mom, grandma, or even some doctors, they actually mean “going through perimenopause.” 

Perimenopause can include experiences ranging from mildly annoying and disruptive, through to turning your world upside down. For example, I experienced brain fog that seriously affected my ability to work and sometimes affected my ability to hold my cool. There was also chronic sleep deprivation, anxiety, depression and changes to my period that I was not expecting.

You know how a storm can blow up suddenly causing the power to go out? That’s what perimenopause did to me. I was looking after my kids and a business and a busy household and not looking after myself and my power went out. 

But it wasn’t all about what was happening to my body. It was the shock I had when I genuinely tried to learn about perimenopause by talking with friends (“Not there yet,” or “please don’t post anything about menopause on my facebook page,” they’d say) or from “Dr. Google,” the bookstore and even my own doctor. What I found was either people didn’t want to talk about perimenopause and menopause, or the information was confusing and conflicting. I launched Menopause Chicks as a way to crack open the conversation.

2) Did going through menopause make you feel more powerful or less powerful? 

Both. To me, power equals choice. Power means having the choice to think about things differently so I can choose to react differently. For example, I don’t get to choose how or when I get a hot flash, but I do get to choose how I react. That’s powerful. And that’s how I am trying to teach myself to flip my perspective on a lot of things these days.

So in the early days of perimenopause, I felt powerless because I was scared. I was scared because I didn’t have the knowledge or information. I wasn’t prepared. And what I found was that some media and advertisers thrive on our sense of powerlessness as they present their solutions like it is our only answer. Within our health care system, this power paradigm also exists. It infers that people who have questions (patients) are powerless and those with answers (health professionals) are powerful. As I continued to research perimenopause and menopause, I decided I wanted to try to shake this paradigm up. 

What if we stop talking ONLY about the negatives and celebrate the positives too? What if we learned to be proactive in our midlife health? What if we could teach women the questions to ask so they could become their own best health advocates? And then, what if those empowered women empowered others? Would this mean that my daughter wouldn’t have to grow up in a world that treats menopause as taboo?

3) When have you felt the most powerful during life's journey? 

2016 is my power year! On new year’s eve last year, I laid in the bathtub and looked down at my body and I thanked it. I thanked it for allowing me to have two healthy, amazing children. I thanked it for carrying me this far on my journey and told it I was looking forward to the second half. Then I made a list of all the things I wanted to do in 2016, and having the honour to crack open the menopause conversation on the TedX stage was on that list! And finally, knowing that I was going to reach menopause in 2016, I also committed to having a party to mark the occasion. That was powerful! I celebrated a milestone that I hope, one day, all women will embrace, look forward to and plan a party around!

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Reut Amit - An Unspeakable Sense of Power

1) Your job puts you in a position of power (so to speak)- does it change the way you interact with people?

I'm not sure I'd say that my job puts me in a position of power.

It puts me in a position to maneuver various sources of power on behalf of my clients. I'm not trying to be opaque with that answer- I swear. It's just that being a lawyer and going to law school is a privilege because it equips you with tools to interact with and impact the sources of power in society.

I think that this understanding of the power structures embedded in society must affect the way that I interact with people simply because it informs the way I view the world. At times that makes me an excellent advocate and, at others, it makes me a terrible cynic. I try my best to stick with the former. The knowledge and privilege of the legal profession also brings with it a great deal of responsibility. The ability to see the power structures in society means that I have an obligation to challenge those structures if I believe them to be unjust. I have always been an advocate, even when I wasn't yet a lawyer, but the addition of the power which accompanies a legal education and career gave me the tools to engage with issues of injustice in a more practical and, often, more effective way. 

2) Tell us about the loss of power? How has it changed you? 

I'll say first, a loss of control is not necessarily a bad thing, though it may be very difficult. A sense of powerlessness over your own being, on the other hand, is always bad.

I've experienced both on many occasions. In my experience, each time I've lost anything in my life, particularly that second type of power, time has shown me with greater and greater clarity how powerful and resilient I am. The depths of my sorrow and pain have always reflected skyward to equally great heights.

Experience has given me the clarity of knowing that, with time, power will follow powerlessness. It's repetition, really. I wish I could have taught my younger self this truth but I know it could have only come with repetitive experience. Eventually, your reaction to loss becomes quicker. Your faith in and knowledge of your strength to overcome moves beyond the realm of doubt. You actively say to yourself, "this hurts, but I know it has an end point." I now know that, despite immense pain, life will always change. It will get better and more difficult and better again.  The way that loss changed me was, therefore, by showing me that I will always rise up. Always. My losses are some of the experiences for which I am most grateful because they've shown me the strength of my character, of my fabric as a human being. My loss has laid the foundation for my greatest pride. 

3) You experienced a "rise up" power moment in life after an abusive relationship ~ would you tell us where the power from within came for you? 

The power came from me and from other women. I began to write about my experience around the same time that the #yesallwomen movement began. I began reading the tweets and the stories of many of these women and I remember getting goosebumps all over because I realized, for the first time, that what I had experienced was, in fact, abuse. I saw myself so precisely in their words and the walls around me began to fall. It became clear to me that all the stories I had told myself, which were a reinforcement of my abuser's narrative, were false. If these women had experienced what I had, then maybe this was not ok. I began to write my story at that point and eventually published it. 

Writing my story empowered me in so many ways. It gave my experience weight. It allowed me to talk about my experience with my friends and family- something I had hidden for years because I couldn't reconcile reality with the stories I had to tell myself to stay with him. 

Sharing my story gave me an unspeakable sense of power. The women who reached out and honoured me with their stories gave me the greatest gift I could have ever asked for. They gave an enduring meaning to my pain. I wouldn't trade that pain for the world. In its absence, I would not have had the tools to support these women and to receive their support in turn. They allowed me to transform a story of isolation and shame into one of unity and strength. 

4) Anything else you want to say/final thoughts?

I'm so thrilled to share a stage with the amazing women who will be speaking this year. I can't wait to meet all the speakers and conference attendees. It's going to be an amazing and inspiring day. 

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Brittany Whitmore - Our Fierce and Powerful Leader

This is the 2nd annual TEDxGastownWomen (TEDxGTW) event and we couldn't be happier to be hosting this event again. 

The inaugural year sold out in 20 minutes. We packed the Segal Graduate School Of Business on Granville Street and learned a lot of lessons about putting on a TEDx event.  This year, we added triple the amount of tickets. 

We thought it would be great to introduce our fierce and powerful leader, Brittany Whitmore. It is her vision, passion and pure drive that makes this event the show stopper that it is. 

Brittany, Why Host Another TEDxGtw?

The response form the community was so amazing! Almost everyone who was in attendance last year, wanted to attend again and be part of it. The volunteers all came back and we gained some new ones so I thought, why not? 

In order to host a TEDxWomen event, we have to do our event in conjunction with TEDWomen and when it was announced late in 2015, we hit the ground running in January and decided to do it all again! 

Bringing people together is a passion of mine. I love to see everyone collaborating, sharing ideas and knowledge. It's an amazing and inspirational day. 

How Did The Idea of Power Come to You?

At our initial meeting to discuss the event, talk about ideas and discuss tome lines, the committee was brainstorming and one team member thought of it. as soon as we looked it up i knew we had to do it. No other TEDx has been focused around power and we knew this was a charged topic. 

Power is a hard topic to ignore. Look at the current state of the world...it's hard not to focus on power and who may be running the world and deciding what's next. 

Tell Us About What You Think Power Is? 

I think power is the ability to create change or initiate change. Power is being able to impact something in some way. You can choose a negative or positive outcome or it can be internal or external. 

Power has so many facets to it!

What are you hoping people take away?

I hope that people discuss things they wouldn’t typically discuss. Our line up of speakers are covering a broad range of topics including: menopause and being child-free by choice. We even have a pole dancer. This year, we focused on topics that people do not regularly engage in but the world needs to be talking about. 

It would also be great if everyone came was able to learn something and build great connections. 

I am excited to be the MC this year and I am excited to see you in the crowd on October 29th. 

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